New chapter

Soon a new chapter in my life will begin..

Trust

Do you trust in other people? How can you be sure that you can trust in someone else?

I know that you should trust in other people, but I have a hard time to trust in people as I have always been betrayed by the other person that I have been trusting. so what can I learn from trusting in others, loads I guess as it's good to trust in people at least some people.

It is hard to trust in someone when you actually have the feeling in the stomach that tells you not to trust in anyone or let anyone close to your heart, I know it is the past that makes it this hard, I do trust in some people, I know they would never betray me not ever. But if they do that, I would probably never ever trust in anyone else in my life.

-Jo

Thought

So many questions, yet no answers!

Sex talks on the Internet

Today I will write about sex chats, or something like that, I really don't know where it will end, but we will see were it will end. I hope it will be an interesting post for all my readers.

Okay, lets start with this question, Is chat talks cheating on your boyfriend/girlfriend?

I actually think it's cheating as you are talking about sex in an intimate weird way. As you are talking about something you should be sharing with your girlfriend/boyfriend. There for it is cheating in my opinion. I know I might be hard but if I even suspect my boyfriend doing that I would dump him without even blinking. I would never in my mind think that he would confess even if I asked him, so why bother to ask? I know I sound like a total bitch but I wouldn't be handling it very well if I find out that he lies about it in the end, I would want to protect myself. I would want to hear what my mates actually think about this topic; Is it cheating or not?

If you are single, I don't see the problem in doing a sex chat, but why would you want to be inside when you can go out and flirt and see the person for real, instead of web cam if you are brave enough to have it on when you do things to yourself when the other person is watching you, but I guess it's a good thing if you are afraid/too shy to talk to the other person in real life.

So the other thing that comes to my mind is why do some people do sex chats when they are in a relationship? The only thing that comes to my mind is that they deep down don't love the person they are with, and they are definitely not respecting the person they are with. The only thing I hate more than getting lied to is the person having no respect for you.

So what can I tell about myself in this question, I would be heartbroken if my partner did anything like this whilst he was with me, I would feel like he don't respect me and definitely is cheating on me as he is talking about sex to another person, in a way that is not okay. I don't get how on earth a person would do something like that if they are in a relationship with the person they claim to love.

Some people would say I am jealous when I say that it's cheating but, according to me, it is cheating in a way and there will not be anything that can change my mind about that; Not now, not ever.

So my solution is really that I would say that if your partner is doing it, dump him/her as they aren't worthy of you as a person, they are a scumbag that just wants to use you for something.

Why would a person want to sex chat when they have a partner? Because it turns them on? Well then, they are not with the right person if they can't get turned on by their girl/boyfriend, so why don't they just dump the person and save them the heartbreak they will get when they find out you have just been cheating with them online with some strangers or, even worse, just been using you as a person. I can only talk for myself really when I say this but I would actually want my heart to be broken by my partner than to find out he has been doing those kind of things behind my back as that is cheating, no matter how much I love the person, just break up with me if you are doing it as I would be 1 billion times more heartbroken if I find out later on that you have been cheating on me online.

I am probably not the only one that thinks sex talks are cheating if you are in a relationship, I know some others do that as well. Why would you want to have a sex talk online when you can have it with your own girl/boyfriend.

So what is the different between a fantasy and a sex chat? Fantasy is just a fantasy you wouldn't be talking about sex with someone else, telling the person what you want to do with him/her, you would just be thinking about it and that is no harm done to the other person.

I think this will be enough for this post I feel a bit depressed when I am writing about stuff like this. I don't know, but it feels like my heart is slowly crying inside.

Thanks for reading this post. Please tell me what you think about it.

-Jo