Jealousy between girls and boys

Today I will write about jealousy in a different way, I will talk about different jealousy things I have seen, lately well with that I mean the last five years, because I have seen so different jealous in that time, and I want to share with you how my mates have been jealous, this will be both girls and boys of course

So what can I really start with, let me start with a girl mate of mine she was really jealous, and this type of jealousy is the worst for girls, I have to say, seen it with more than just her.  It was when the boy she liked started to speak to other girls, well they were you can say more than friends, but not together, well I really don’t know what they were. Well she started to ask that boy everything he did, everyone he talked to, she tried to control him to the point that everything was bad if he talked to other girls. Really the only thing that happens was that the boy kept talking with his friends and everything and slowly started to look for a new girl, as he didn’t want to have my mate as she was so jealous and he thought if we get together I will lose my best friends, as they are mostly girls. Because she was so damn jealous I know that the girl got mad and unsure as he talked to one person she hated, it was her worst period in her life she has told me afterwards, she drove away the person she claimed to love, because she was so jealous. Today she have a kid and are married to another person, but she still thinks of that boy she made to leave her to go to the girl she hated.

I have seen one or two boys get jealous but they don’t tend to go so often jealous, I really don’t know why they never get jealous seems like they can’t show how they become. Anyway this boy mate was one that was together with a girl, and she got a work and her work colleague that of course was a boy. She started to spend more time on work, and he got worried that she would fall for this new boy, so he started to visit her on the work to give flowers, and stuff like that, she never knew he was jealous as he never told her that, but he really told everyone else. The thing was that she invited the new colleague home to a party and my mate went mental that night, he really started to fight with his girlfriend, screaming that she has been cheating on him, and of course she hadn’t done that, but he didn’t know that, and that colleague was gay, so he didn’t even like her. The thing was that they dumped each other and started a new life, my friend went to therapy to work of his jealousy as he had towards other boys as he said, that was not that first time, and probably not the last one.

 My personal thoughts about this is that it is more girls that are jealous, and they tend to show it more open, they trash talk other people to get what they want, they start to play dirty, I really don’t know if lads do it like we do. But what worries me is that they boys never see when we girls start to do the dirty games, as they just feel loved, or horny, no idea really. Girls tend to try to control their boyfriends, they can also make so they fight and all that, just because she is so jealous over him talking to another girl. Boys I think can get jealous if they hear about old things that the girl have done and all that, same with the girls really.

The only time I have really felt jealousy was a time when one choose another girl over me, as I wasn’t that person that he wanted to share his love with, but he played me to think that I was the one he loved, but I wasn’t and of course I was jealous. When I think about it, I was jealous and all that but I pushed away what I felt to play dirty to get out the girl from the boys life, and I really got her out by showing a friend that played the boy as he had done with me, while I took photos of him kissing another girl while he was together with that girl he left me for, well just say that I lost really many friends with my dirty game, but mostly I was happy as she left him so I didn’t care in the end. I got my so called payback!

-Jo