Okay as you all know that follows my blog I wrote about jealousy yesterday, and today I will continue with that, as there are so many different jealousy, and things you can talk about when it comes to that subject, but this post has actually a mate on facebook given me the idea to write about, so thank you Lulu, and I hope you will like to read it.. Oh yeah just to clear somethings before I start, I don’t talk about anyone on facebook, or so the people I am talking about when it comes to jealousy is my real friends that lives here in Gothenburg, Sweden or close to Gothenburg!
Okay so now to the subject of my post, when you are in a relationship some people actually get the kick to make their partner jealous doesn’t matter if it is a girl or a boy, but they do try to make the other one jealous by doing things, like flirt open to others, write to others and don’t mention their partner, okay where do the line go between cheating and making the other feel insure about what the other person feels?
So we can start with facebook and one of my closest friends, she is not in a relationship or she is in real life but on facebook she isn’t she is single, as she wants the attention other guys are giving her, so she can use that to her boyfriend that she so supposed should love. The worst thing is that she don’t accept her boyfriends request so she tells him everthing they do, and say to her, and things like that.. Okay I do tell my boyfriends when guys bothers me, but that is not to make him jealous as she thinks, the differency between her and me is that I get so angry when they start to flirt with me, and I do tell them that I am inlove with my boyfriend, and that I am not avilible, but she do it complete different she start to talk about sex, and things like that, and yeah it gets better, as one of the boys that lived in our town went to see her, and she was like “Do I know you, no don’t think so, go to hell, here is my love of my life”
The thing is I have been there when she tells her boyfriend about the other guys flirting with her, and I see how hurt he gets as he knows she does the same thing, but what I don’t get it that he plays jealous as he knows that is what she wants, and then they just continue with this game, why not tell her the truth that you don’t care about the others and just care about your own relationship?!?!
Oh well guys aren’t that much better, they do the same things, as my mate does to his girlfriend when they are walking outside, oh well his girlfriend is pretty jealous when you start to think closely about their relationship. Okay lets start from the beggining with this they have been together for 5 or 6 years, but her boyfriend gets a bit flirty when he gets drunk trust me I know this for a fact, and I know how he is when he is sober too! Well now to the thing, when he is out with his girlfriend he tends to say oh she is hot, when he is with the other guys and the girls starts to boil up with the anger she feels, and the jealousy she has, one time she took me to the toilet to talk and she said in frustration I am trying my fucking best not to get jealous but do you see what XXXX is doing? Right infront of me, argh, help me Jo, I don’t want to feel like this. But in the end he gets what he want when they come home, a nice time in bed, and then he is saying to her according to herself, you have nothing to be jealous for even when I flirt and things like that, (we tend to play drunken games like spin the bottle and things like that here) I love you and I want to be with you no other girl.
But the thing is what actually chock me is that they stay in the relationship when they know that the other parter is making them jealous with purpose, if that happens to me I would leave even if I love the person, as I don’t like that kind of things. Everyone has probably tried to make their partner jealous sometime, lets see what did I do when I tried to make my partner jealous, I took on a mini skirt, a top and knee socks and went to a party, and the thing was that it didn’t work at all to make him jealous all he said was oh sweet I have a hot girlfriend that many people like?! Ufff that was a mistake to do from my side, but it is not healthy to try to make the other one jealous.
I would want the people that are trying to make their partner jealous, simply this. Ask your self if you love the person in question? If you say yes think again because why would you want to hurt the person you love, It is not healthy to be jealous, if you look at other guys/girls when you’re in a relationship are you truely inlove? Are you sure you want to have the person you want? Because you do clearly thinking of other person flirting with you, do you want them to kiss you, do other things? I mean where do the line go between cheating and hurting your partner? You really shouldn’t hurt the people you love you should make them the happiest person alive maybe do a nice surprise, write cute notes to him/her what you feel for them, what you want them to do when they come home from a hard day in work.
Oh well I hope that you have liked this post I really don’t know what more I can say about this without using the names of my friends and that would make me look bad, as they would come after me and kick my arse, haha, but you know you love me ;)
-Jo
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