Today I will talk
about those that never seem to come over their ex’, if your partner dumps you
it is hard, everyone knows that, you get depressed and all that, but some
people never seem to get over the thought that they got dumped. Well here is my
own thoughts, my own stories that I have seen and heard about people trust me
when I say it’s not easy to tell someone that they have to start listen to you
and forget their love of their life as they say but it works, I know that.
So I have a girl mate
that got dumped over a year ago, and yet she wants her ex back, he was
unfaithful to her, with his new one and still she has a hard time to forget her
love of her life as she says he is. So what
can I start all I know is that my mate was extremely sad when he dumped her,
and she started to date other people in the beginning but the thing was that
she always compared the new one to her ex that was a jerk to her, and still is
a jerk when you see all fact, well she has nowhere close forget him, she still
lives in a bubble that he will come back to her and they will live happily
after. Because he has been with her when he had problem with the new one, and
the new one hates her as she is his ex, but I don’t know what is worst is it
that my mate still want him who cheats and everything, he is even engaged to
the new one, but she thinks always that he will come back to her, and it has
gone so far that she even want to tell the new one all about their love nights,
and what they have done while those two have been together, because she think
that will lead her ex back to her, but I have told her that she will lose him
completely if she do that, he loves the new one and want to get married to her.
Honestly everyone has told her that he is happy in love with the new one but
she just can’t see that he is that, as she think he loves her, but she tends to
forget that he dumped her for a new one, then he used her to get sex just
because he knew she would be happy to have that, while he had problems with the
new one. It’s so frustrating that she
can’t see that he doesn’t love her, and move on with her life, honestly it has
gone over one year, but I guess everyone can’t forget a person that fast.
I mean all I can say
is that I have been dumped and that hurts loads more than anyone can think of,
it actually feels like someone takes out your heart and stamp on it and it
breaks in to one billion pieces, and that the other person stands and laughing
at you because they know how much pain you are in but you are trying to hide
it, I know I have been there, my friends tends to forget that I have been dumped
too I know how that feels but the big difference is probably that I get so
angry when I get dumped, even if I feel sad and all that all I really want to
do is to get to the person and break every single bone in his body as he has
played with my feelings, but the thing is that it takes time to heal after you
get dumped, I know that, I got healed and everything was pretty good until I
realise that that the person didn’t love me and just played with me, but the
thing was that I knew to forget the person I had to cut out everyone that
reminded me of him, and honestly we all know how that went, honestly I was
really bad when I start to think but the thing was that I was going on and
started to live and somehow I grow as a person, even if I still today I get
really sad and feel really like no one understand what I went through inside as
I have a hard time to open myself even if I was with my mate the first time and
all that. I have tried to talk to my mate about myself and all she says to me
is that you can’t understand how it is as you got happy in the end, and that I
should let her get back her ex.
What my mate doesn’t understand
in my heart break is that I still today get really sad, because I know so many
knew that I got my heart broken, and what I most of all I wanted was for no one
to know but that was not possible, in my case, and the thing was that some
people did everything to remind me that I was bad and all that, that I had
ruined many people and didn’t let them be happy, I was the bad person, but I don’t
think no one really understood how hurt I was, how I felt no one understood me,
I really wished people just didn’t talk about him, and all that, but the worst
was probably when one person said that he wrote sweet things to another girl
and that he was so in love with her. Honestly I wish my mate would have been in
my shoes because I decided to never get hurt again in that way the way I was,
and honestly I would never want to go back to the person I was before the heart
break as I did honestly grow so much. I have realise that it takes time to heal
but you get stronger. I try to tell my mate that she should stop thinking of
him, stop having him as a background on the phone and computer, and most of all
why would she want to have someone that has hurt her as much as he has done?
It’s not easy to
forget someone you love, but when you realise what he/she has done you are
better off without them.
-Jo
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